Category Archives: mental health

Balance…

balance

Balance
elusive yet desirable
attainable
but sacrifices must be made
to reach the Bliss point where all things sit on their perch just so
letting go of one to uplift the other
sister
mother
lover
friend
in the end there is a give and take
or in the wake of the tumultuous juggling will be broken things scattered at your feet
So I repeat
Balance
desirable but hard to maintain
one must refrain from doing too much or not Enough
rebuffed by the pressure to do all
to not let anything fall
by the wayside
Pride we must check
respect your limitations by celebrating all that you do in lieu of perfection
we honor intentions
make sure yours are pure
sacrifice all that you were
In order to become the person you must be
To achieve
Balance…

You are worthy of being holistically well
Yulinda Rock

Time Management…

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February 29.  The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do.

So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest.  Take stock of these past months.  Did you do everything you set out to do?  If you did how did you mange to do so?  If not, why not?  What hindered you?  What can you do to combat those obstacles?  Two months down, ten more to go!  How do you plan to live them?

January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me.  I failed at intentionally going after my goals.  I didn’t work out like i planned to.  I didn’t track my calories.  I neglected to update my website.  My business social media platforms were woefully bare.  Networking??  Fahget about it!

However despite all I didn’t do, I managed to live.  I cried, I laughed, I screamed for both joy and because of pain, I watched TV, and just lazed around.  And although I didn’t do all that I sought to I did something that I have not been able to do in a long time, appreciate the moments.

With that being said, its time to get back to business.  I’m using this extra day to focus. To regroup.  To better manage my time.  Find BALANCE.

My pendulum tends to swing far right or far left, and I know I’m not the only one that operate in extremes.  Let’s make the leap together to better manage our time and find the balance that will be a step toward holistic wellness.

We are worthy…

Yulinda Rock

Anchor

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It’s been a quiet month of January for me. It made me anxious that I had not posted. I felt compelled to force communication and every time I came here to post, it felt unauthentic, so I chose silence.
And in that silence I remained true to myself.

Often we do things not because we want to but because we feel we should. At times sacrificing to the point where we have nothing left, not even for ourselves.

Does this sound familiar? Giving from a place which others do not replenish, leaving it empty?

It is a wonderful thing to be caring. To want to help others, but not if it diminishes you.
That way lies bitterness.

Im not exempt from the lesson. It took me a while to get it. I have an innate need to help but in my quest for discernment I am learning the difference between helping and enabling.
I am now no longer willing to drown for others to float, and neither should you.

You are worthy of being holistically well.
Yulinda Rock

It’s hard to heal what we conceal…

conceal depression

I came across an article in the Huffington Post that I thought was important to share, 11 habits f people with concealed depression.

Feeling blue, a bit down, a little sad, in a funk; however you describe it, depression is real.
Depression is especially prevalent around the holiday season, and even more so, it is concealed.
In an effort to not be a “burden” or a “downer” people suppress their feelings, oping to put on a happy face as to not disturb the feel good vibes of those around them.
Having battled depression on and off since I was a child, I have become quite adept at hiding my “blues” choosing to mask them with busyness.
However, as I began to recognize the importance of my mental health and how it effects my ability to parent, I have begun to acknowledge my needs. I occasionally reach out to those I trust to handle my feelings with care.
Be mindful of those around you.
We often drop little clues in the hopes that the people we love will pick up on them without us having to hand over our bleeding heart and face the possibility of being rebuffed.
So take note, please.
Often times just acknowledging that you see something is “off” will be enough to lift a mood.
You have the potential to be a catalyst for positive change.
For those going through, you are not alone. Your “cure” can usually be found on the other side of your ability to be vulnerable.
You are worthy of being holistically well…
Yulinda Rock

Resilient…

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We all go through things.
It is what you do in the midst of a storm that highlights who you really are.  It is easy to be calm when the sun is shining, it is infinitely harder to retain that same fortitude when you are caught out in a downpour with no umbrella.
Life can be a tumultuous tornado, wracking havoc on all of our plans.
Laying waste to a foundation we thought was solid.
Shining a spot light on our vulnerability.
In those moments when we find ourselves broken we become truly acquainted with our strength.
We realize just how much we are capable of.
We keep going.
Sometimes smiling, sometimes crying, often both at the same time, we continue.
Being broken doesn’t equate uselessness.
It is an opportunity to showcase your strength, which is only limited by your thoughts.  

You’ve got this!

You are worthy of being holistically well.
Yulinda Rock

Intentionally Happy…

For the parents…(or anyone really)

As I find myself becoming more and more overwhelmed with life, mentally tired and struggling to focus on the positive, I decided that it would be beneficial to myself and to my kids for me to work on my mindset.
I was thinking about how I can be more “present” in my children lives. I come home form work and I often find myself looking for an escape route, a moment to just breathe.
Taking for granted that I can “plug in” later.
In a moment.
Soon…
Unfortunately with life being as it is, there may not be a soon.
But there is now.
So I came up with a seven day chart to help my children and I celebrate the now and to be intentionally happy. Use it with your kids, your spouse, friends, or just use it yourself!
I
plan to post this and use this simple seven day chart to help my children and I focus on the positive and help me to connect with them, everyday.

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Today is Soul Search Sunday and what do I need to change? My perspective, because by doing so I can change my life…

Change your mindset, change your mental language, change your life.
You are worthy of being holistically well.
Yulinda Rock

Illuminate your path so that others can find their way…

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It is interesting for me when I write, because although I write for an audience, specifically clients and potential clients, I also write from a very real place,a personal place.  Nine times out of ten, the things I write about I have experienced personally in addition to working with others to get through it.  The same goes for the seasonal “blues”.

As the nights get longer and the days get colder, I often find my thoughts mirroring the vista outside my window; cold, gray, haunting, still, but full of potential and possibilities.

As we embark on this holiday season I want us all to remember that the best way to help us out of our own “funk” is to bring joy to someone else. We often take for granted just how powerful, acts of kindness can be.  In my blog post for Beverly Therapist I talk about how we as neighbors have a unique opportunity to be a light to someone this season.  To quote my post, “The smallest spark can illuminate and chase away shadows often unseen”.

As the snow accumulates and the temps fall, take it upon yourself to lift someone else spirits.  Putting a smile on someone else face is guaranteed to put one on yours.  I don’t offer many guarantees, but this one I stand by.  A remedy for the “blues”.

May your willingness to shine your light on others contribute to your wellness. You are worthy.

Yulinda Rock

It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

choose happy

I’m still learning this and everyday I work harder to choose to be happy. Life is not always what we want it to be.  The world is so full of things we don’t control, but one thing we definitely DO control is our mindset.  Yes it is easier to give in to circumstances.  To allow ourselves to become immersed in negativity.  It is okay to feel the feelings.  To acknowledge that things are not what we want them to be. But once we face our reality. Once we take stock and give name to our emotions, then what?

Then there is a decision to be made.

Happiness is a choice.

When things are going every way but right, happiness can be a difficult choice to make, but we we still have the option to make it.

As I focus more on what’s right and less on what’s wrong, choosing happiness becomes easier.
So I challenge you.
Choose happiness today.
Right now.
This minute.
And if you already have? Then continue.

And if for some reason you can’t? That’s what I’m here for.  
Let me help you.


Blessings
Yulinda Rock

I Am An Ally…

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Our society is not the most accepting of differences, whether that be race, ethnicity or religion.  Being uncomfortable in your own skin, not having a voice or an outlet to deal with ambiguity and uncertainty, can lead to unhealthy escapes; a breakdown in mental wellness.

In a world where questions of sexuality and gender identification are becoming more prominent, we are faced with the need to offer safe places where people are comfortable exploring and understanding their truth.

I have the honor of working with an amazing group of colleagues at Beverly Therapists. One of my colleagues, Bonn Wade, has created a free group for transgendered youth. Gendernauts will provide a place where the youth can feel secure in knowing that they will be met with support and empathy.  By clicking here, you can read an article where Bonn explains his reasoning for creating the group and what he hopes to accomplish.

As a therapist, but more importantly, as a decent human being, my goal is to embrace people, not their labels.  I support my colleague in helping to create a space where those labels are not necessary.

I Am An Ally…

Yulinda Rock