Be an authority over your own thoughts: A hard conversation with myself

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Woke up this morning and felt unsettled in my spirit.  I found out something that made me start to question myself.  It was causing feelings of bitterness and was disrupting my productivity.  These thoughts were stealing my contentment.  I tried to swallow down the frustration but it got stuck in my chest.  I could feel it tightening.  My head started to hurt and I felt my hands contracting into fist.  I started asking the questions?

Why not me?

Why are things so difficult for me?

Why must I always struggle?

Where is my break?

Why is everyone else prospering and I’m having such a hard time?

And on and on.

Then I stopped. I stopped and checked myself.  Sure, life isn’t fair, but my journey is my own and I have the choice to either use my energy to focus on someone else’s journey or I can laser focus on my own.   So I changed frustration into inspiration, and I began to answer the questions that plagued me.

Why not you?  Why not you, what? Why was that opportunity not afforded to you?  Why are blessings not falling down on your head? First, you are blessed.  Second, because that is not your path.  You know that is not your path but instead of boldly embarking on your own road you allow your focus to shift to others.  Stop being afraid.  Stop trying to control everything.  Trust yourself.  Believe in yourself and move forward.  Eyes straight ahead. No distractions.

Why are things so difficult for you?  Seems like you are focused on the wrong thing, again. Instead of asking yourself why are things difficult focus on what you can do to be more proficient.  Are things really difficult or are you just not helping yourself to make things easier.  Sure, things have not been a cakewalk but you must acknowledge that your own thoughts create way more difficulty for you than your actual circumstances.  Change your perspective, change your life.

Why must you always struggle? Define struggle? You mean why are things not easy? Why must you WORK and put forth EFFORT? Why can’t Yulinda simply exist and have things just so? Yeah it would be great if you could just snap your fingers and everything fell into place but…So how about we reframe this.  You have certain goals.  You want autonomy and freedom of expression.  You have made the choice to work for yourself.  That takes dedication, discipline, perseverance, persistence, courage, and a lot of other adjectives. If you truly want this than make it happen,  no more excuses.  You’re not struggling, you’re hustling.  Keep going!

Where is your break? Seriously? There are no breaks.  You CREATE breaks by positioning yourself in a way that makes getting a break more likely.  That definitely will not happen while you are sitting on Facebook feeling some type of way about other people’s success. Get busy!

Why is everyone else prospering and you are having such a hard time?  Again, seriously? Why are you focused on other people.  Clap for them while you go perform for you!  Your issue is focus.  It is not where it belongs.  You should not have time to pay attention to other people’s success.  You should be creating your own.  You are worth the work.  Acknowledge that. Accept that.  Go do it!

Don’t let your thoughts derail you.  Confront your negative thoughts.
Re-frame them. Reshape them. Then, re-calibrate.

You are worthy of being holistically well.

Yulinda Rock

 

 

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